Choices Choices

It’s amazing how much power we have over our own lives even in the most troubling and difficult times when challenges overwhelm us to the point to where we feel things are just beyond our control. Sure we can’t control what others do to us or against us, but we are very much in control of how we react to them. Sometimes some of the things others can do to us can be devastating and it is justified by many by acting bitterly with the hurt and sorrow they’ve caused you. So you turn your back to them, wish them luck in their choices, and continue life without them without any intention of reconciliation. You have been victimized. You’ve tried so hard to please those around you and you simply don’t deserve this. You feel that you have no choice in the matter. There’s just nothing you can do anymore.


I have been fortunate to learn a completely different perspective in dealing with the most devastating circumstances. And I have learned this through none other than the Lord Himself. By turning to Him in my most troubling times I’ve allowed myself to be humbled, teachable, and to be able to forgive my offenders regardless of the offense. I’ve really tried to look at others from HIS perspective rather than my own. It is my goal to make His perspective my own perspective. It is why we are here right? To become more like Him? If we limit ourselves by saying, “I’m not Christ. He is perfect and I am not,” you are justifying your imperfections rather than trying to perfect them and become more like Him.

When you make a mistake, have you ever really contemplated about the thoughts of our Heavenly Father. When you turn to Him does He say, “Well if you would’ve just listened to me in the first place.” Does he respond negatively with hurt and bitterness towards us because we have offended Him? Of course not. It is in these moments He not only extends His arms to us, but he embraces us with His warm unconditional love and holds us close to his heart.

When I’ve experienced troubling times in my marriage I’ve heard others tell me that I deserve better. But what was frustrating about that statement is that I know I deserved better. But I deserved better from the love of my life and none other. Seeking out a replacement wasn’t fixing the problem. I had to realize that I wasn’t a victim when I had free will to choose my attitude. I could choose to be a victim or I could choose to hold my head up and love life and love my spouse. It was the commitment I made when I married him wasn’t it? For better for worse, through thick and thin etcetera etcetera. I knew my husband’s heart and I’ve seen the beautiful way he has treated me before, why must I think he can’t treat just as beautiful now.

Choices…life is all about choices. We can choose to love, we can choose to hate, we can choose to be bitter and resentful, or we can choose to be kind and loving. We can choose to be offended, to be a victim in our circumstances, or we can choose to think positively and keep a smile on our face through it all. I choose to have faith and I choose to believe! I choose to love and be kind! I choose my amazing husband (despite his imperfections) and most of all, I choose our most gracious Father in Heaven. So as Joseph B Wirthlin Said, “Come what may and love it!”